The Vagina Gap

I have a good group of friends. I have best friends, I have acquaintances. I have friends that I talk all day every day to, and I have friends that I talk to once a month. Over the past 10+ years that I have been out of high school, the make up of my friends has gone from predominately male, to predominately female. This has been doe to various factors, the major ones being internet dating and becoming friends of friends.

Its a natural human trait to think that others think like you. And if not that, then to want them to think like you. And lately I have been getting into conflicts with friends, where the fundamental difference is the way we thing, and the way we approach things. But then I realized there was a common thread among all of those that I have been getting into conflict with, they are all women! Now before any women reading this starts to get mad, let me explain. Men and women are different, its a fact of life. And I can't expect my female friends to think like me. And they can't expect me to think like them. The way logic works for us is different (and being a physics major, the was logic works for me in particular is quite different). And that's the thing, I have been getting female reactions and trying to rationalize them with male logic. Any any man with a significant other will tell you that is a grave mistake.

Now that I have come to this conclusion I need to approach my female friends in a different way. I almost need to approach them like they were my girlfriend. This, in certain ways, will allow me to expect, or at least anticipate the female reaction to things I say or do. And when we don't see eye to eye and I get a reaction that I don't agree with, I will have a place to start assessing from.

This also shows that I need more/to hang our more with my male friends.

-J